By Suzie Chafin
In Part One of this article, we examined some of the ways that couples should approach their relationship to keep their marriage strong as they integrate twins/multiples into the family. Now, let’s take a look at some of those needs of the Dad. Listen up ladies; we need to remember Dad’s needs too!
Need One: Sex
Yes, you knew it was coming. We women just can’t understand how a man still has a sex drive after you’ve been spit up on ten times a day. Ladies, understand this: a man needs sex just as a woman needs to feel affection without sex. It is an absolute need of your mate. Do not withhold yourself from him. I know you are tired; I know sometimes you just can’t even imagine having the energy to have sex. When you get into bed and you feel his arm wrapping around you -- and you know it’s not to “cuddle” -- just relax. Enjoy the closeness and the intimacy sex will bring to your marriage. Do not let too much time pass without meeting this very important need of your man.
Need Two: Feeling Needed
You may believe you are a new millennium mom. You can do it all – take those babies to the store, work, run errands, be a soccer mom. You probably could do it all, all alone if you had to, but you don’t. You have a helper and it is your husband. Let him know how much you need him. A man needs to feel important and needed. Tell him how much you need him and how much you appreciate him.
Need Three: A Wife Who is Interested in Him
The busy details of daily life leave little time at the end of the day to find out what is happening with your partner. What’s going on at the office, or with his tennis partner? How is he feeling? Don’t forget to ask. Call him during the day just to say hello, just to find out how his day is going. Don’t let another woman fill this need in his life. You need to be interested in him and who he is.
Okay, Husbands, its your turn to take notes. Let’s look at the needs of your wife.
Suzie Chafin is a Dallas, Texas mom of four children, including identical twin boys. She writes and lectures about family topics such as postpartum depression, managing multiples and Christian parenting. She is the author of Your Pregnancy Devotional. 
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