From the article: When Does It Get Easier?
Parents of infant twins often feel overwhelmed. The seemingly endless cycle of sleepless nights followed by long days providing care to two needy babies can produce feelings of hopelessness and frustration. They may wonder, "When does it get easier?" Or they may look toward a day in the future, seeking a timeline for when having multiples will feel more manageable. Share your thoughts about when it gets easier to parent twins, and offer hope and encouragement to new parents. Share Your Thoughts
Bliss
- My "baby" girls turned three yesterday, and we also have a four and a half year old son. The first two and a half yrs with the girls were very tricky, but even on the worst days I would look at all of my children and feel so incredibly grateful. The craziness lessens with time, the love only gets bigger.
- —Guest Kylie
It's just soooo hard
- I have 7 month old twin boys and a 3 yr old boy,im goin crazy im so tired and jusy overwhelmed.not matter what anyone says having twins changes your life completely.I never have time for myself.i can never really enjoy spending time with my 3 yr old.I just pray it gets easier for me.
- —Guest Tutiii
Ain't No Joke
- Being a father of 2 mo old b/g twins, I can say this is the most tired I've ever been. I'm not sure how my wife does it, staying home with the twins 24/7. I get up to go to work and look forward to my 9 hour "break". After work, I do look forward to seeing their cute little faces, and when they smile it just melts your heart....but at the same time I know its going to be non stop feeding, diaper changes, burping, bottle cleaning, formula mixing, baby laundry..etc etc. I must admit, i no longer look forward to weekends as I use to do. I know they say its a life changing event to have kids, but wow!, twins will turn your life upside down. I just look forward to the day when sleeping more than 2 hours at a time is possible and enjoying a meal without having to rush. Yes I love my kids...they are so cute and precious, and do make me smile throughout the day. I really wish it would get easier soon, so I can perhaps enjoy just being with them and not worry if they've burped
- —Guest bt2
Yeah. Right.
- I have joint custody of my ex of our daughter (9) and our twin boys that just turned 4. I don't know what you are all talking about. The first year seemed easy. But now that are a compete and total nightmare. My daughter is a perfect kid. Polite and respectful. Virtuous and kind. The twins are assholes. I don't know how else to put it. They are either constantly trying to kill themselves or each other. They destroy EVERYTHING they touch. They are the reason I can't have nice things. I am a loving but strict parent. And I give them a verbal warning when they are crossing a line and they just give me this stupid face and laugh. It has come down to when I have the kids 95% of the time is spent giving time outs or lecturing them on proper behavior and I have no quality time with my daughter. Not to mention I have zero dating life. If I could stroke a pen and never see them again I would. They are the worst thing that has ever happened to my family. I hate myself for saying it. But it'true
- —Guest Angry dad.
doulble trouble
- i found the first 3 months ok as they were early all they did was sleep i just feed them on sched. i have b/g twins the girl had colic that lasted months and generally cried all the time.they both slept thru from 4m.then at 9m my son started waking up almost every night.then around 18ms they switched over my daughter was a calm toddler and my son was having constant tantrums and generally controllin. now almost 3yrs old it has defo got easier.they can talk better so not as many tantrums they play lovely alot more tho sharin is still an issue.my son sleeps all night long now which is a god send.h is still very domanont over his sister. but we have alot more fun
- —Guest jj
Waiting for that day!
- I have 3 month old b/g twins and a 6 year old and when I had my twins my husband who is in the military was deployed and still is to this day. I am sooooo exhausted and soooo tired. I have no help as far as night time feedings and my mom helps me during the day. My husband will not be back until they are 6 months old. I pray everyday when will it be better because twin boys are so much needier than baby girl. I'm so physically, emotionally drained. I feel I have neglected my 6 year old. I know it won't be so bad if my husband was home to help me, but he is serving his country. My twins were colicky, had ear infections, thrush from the antibiotics that was given to them in the NICU. Just a mess. I am burnt out and just waiting for the day that I can fully enjoy them and when my husband can return home.
- —Guest MS
twins n easy in the same sentance?
- u have to really ask ur self if it really ever gets easier or if u just learn to manage things better. I am a mother of 4 kids, oldest 6, then 3, n my 1 yr old twins. i love all of my childeren with every inch of my heart and soul. twins or no twins i feel like things never get easier we just get wiser, faster, n just learn to deal with the little things that we use to b grossed out with. ya sure as they get older u find urself not having to do as much, like they can hold there own bottle... thats always great it gives u time to wash the dishes.... but u lose the time u gained washing dishes looking for the bottle when they r done because it some how fell on the floor n got kicked under the couch. i would have to say i spend a good chunck of my time looking for bottles just like i would that one sock that always seems to disappear. With age n independent u solve one problem n another one comes with it. twins just mean double the joy n double the trouble i wouldnt call that easier
- —crap_what_next
You will survive...
- I just stumbled upon this page by accident. I can tell you all that you will survive! I have 24 yr old mirror image twin boys. I can honestly say it doesn't get easier, it gets better. What one didn't think of, the other one would and still does! But, the bond they share is priceless. They always find a way to be together on their birthday, No matter where they are. One day, about 9 yrs ago, they were fighting so bad, I had to separate them with a broom. I asked them why they just didn't separate for a bit and regroup, one of them looked at me and said" we can't mom, you just don't understand, we are one" my heart just wanted to break. But I know how much they love each other and through the years they have separated, but always find a way back to each other!
- —Guest Anne
Hope these hopeless days end soon
- I have two month old twin girls and am struggling. I am so blessed to have these babies, but am equally as burdened. I keep hearing people refer to the first three months as their dark days and boy I couldn't agree more! Nothing could have prepared me for this. Our girls are going through a growth spurt right now and I'm getting 45 minute chunks of sleep because they're eating every two hours and it takes an hour to feed. Pray for me!
- —Guest Jenny
dreading 2moro mine are 1 it gets better
- This is a response to the lady who put this in her story... 1 twin has reflux and you feel like you are failing the twins as 1 is sick and highy demanding and the other is quiet so misses your attention. I was in the same situation.. i think we give the baby who needs us the most attention. It's natural so don't feel guilty. Tessy was my sick, demanding twin who needed attention. I was lucky I had a sister who would come over when I was panicking and I also had anxiety as I hated my twins' crying. I woud break down crying with them. It was such a struggle and I was stuffed. The house was embarassing and when family came over, all they wanted to do wake the twins who just shut their eyes. It was hard but there truly is sunshine at the end of a storm with twins. Me and Tessy have a close bond and bellbell, she's happy to do her own thing and come over to me for kisses and cuddles but bellbell is more independent. And bonjella for teething, does miracles. it will let them sleep at night.
- —Guest aseywitika@yahoo.co.nz
my advise is
- It gets easier when they can sleep through the night.. and crawl around. I'm no longer a zombie on the gogo.. and if they can go to daycare or family's houses so you can have a break, and you can enjoy them rather than have them as a never ending CHORE... it got easier for me when they reached 1. I took them off the tit, and they got independent in crawling...
- —Guest caseynewzealand
i wonder will i survive emotionally!!!
- I had b/g twins when my daughter was almost two. She was a very easy going baby and when they were born that was a reality check on what most babies are like. Twins are 3 1/2 now and I have held up pretty good, but the last couple of months I feel more overwhelmed then I did when I was breastfeeding them with a two year old. Maybe it's just a build up. They are constantly fighting and the boy says NO to everything. His mood affects mine. I am wondering if anyone can tell me it gets easier.....He's a great kid but everything has to be his idea when he's ready. I feel that my girls are on the back burner while I deal with, bribe, or restrain. I am a good mother who does things with kids and read to them etc. I don't get this treatment. I am praying for better days soon.
- —Guest sherry
having two sets of twins
- hi i have had two sets of twins. My first were girls and are now 2, and 1 of them is more forward and likes to look after her sister. They weighed 5,9 and 6,10 and i had the first normal delivery and then a c/section. My sencord set are are now 7 months and are girls too and they weighed 7,1 and 6,11. And I had a planned c/section. I now have 6 children and love them all. Twins were a big shock but every day is amazing
- —Guest louise
Easier now
- I have 1 year old twin boys. The 1st 2 weeks I slept MAXIMUM 2 hours a night. I was so exhausted and even though my husband helped a lot, I had to wake up to breastfeed. Now that they are 1, it is much much easier. They sleep more - wake up twice a night but just to drink bottle & they can hold bottles for themselves! They are starting to walk now - which I think will be easier as now I sometimes have to carry both of them at the same time. They fight a lot though & also get along 2 seconds later. It is such a joy. I also have a 3 yr old gal who loves them to bits. Am grateful she was never jealous. But sometimes all 3 of them fight...there is def never a dull moment in my house!!
- —Guest Milly
After turning 1, but MUCH better after 3
- My twin girls were easy (had 2 brothers 1st) But after turning 1, it was just a lot easier to go places. After 3, we were potty trained. So all was good. They always played together so they were less "trouble" than their brothers. They are 5 now. I have no issues except we have no hand-me-downs.
- —Guest Angela
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