what to do
- yesterday i found out that i am pregnant with fraternal twins and my emotions have been through the roof...i already have a 4 year old little boy with adhd. since i found out i have been glued to my computer trying to get as much information on having twins... my pregnancy has been miserable so far with the cramping swollen breasts and feet...all i have to say is i admire the mothers who already have twins and an older singleton...im still in shock because twins dont run in either sides of or families...hopefully my mommy instincts will kick in sooner than later and i will be able to raise all three of my child as a good mother
- —Guest brittanee
It Gets Better :).....
- I have 8 1/2 month b/g twins, and I relate to so many of the things that have been said here. I think that things have gotten easier as they have gotten older...the first 3 or 4 months were extremely difficult for me, and I would almost cry daily when my husband left for work. When they began to sit up on their own it began to get a little better, and now that they are starting to crawl it is easier because there is not so much holding, but challenging bc you can't let them out of your sight for a second. And I don't think that mothers of singletons can relate to what it is like, so it can be difficult to find someone to understand how overwhelmed you're feeling. I felt guilty for several months bc I felt like I should be enjoying motherhood more. BUT, it does get better! And maybe it's not that it gets easier, but that eventually you just give in to a new chaotic life and adjust!! :) Don't worry about the laundry or the dishes...just focus on your babies and let other things go
- —erica718
Not easier but different
- my b/b fraternal twins are now 2 years 3 months and I can't say it didn't get easier by time they can walk so I don't have to carry them around all time, they can now express what they need so I don't have to do all the guessing (lots of Mommy Look now though) but it is more diffcuilt to manage two different and very stubborn personalities, I have this problem that they almost copy eachother in everything (bad of course) so I have to say No No twice. sometimes they can amuse eachother playing peek-a-pooh or pretend feeding eachother for 10 minutes or so then I almost everytime run to see who hit who :) It's a bless of course and I know that someday I'll miss all that when when they are all grown ups and out of home but it is so diffcuilt at some points I just feel that I am loosing it
- —Guest Walaa
Hmmm
- I just asked myself this question today. Mine are 2 years old. I suppose what alot of people said is true. It doesn't necessarily get easier, it just changes. I have two other kids also (singletons) and that is true for them as well. It doesn't get easier....just different. One thing is true though...little people have little problems....bigger kids have bigger problems. When they are little, you can just put a bandaid on their boo boo. As they get older the challenges they face become more difficult. We often look forward to the next "phase" so much that we miss out on the one their in. Don't look forward so much that you end up looking back with regret. And remember that the things that count in life can't always be counted.
- —Guest Meag182
My question exactly!
- I would love to know when it gets easier. I think I wonder that everyday with a 3.5 yo son and 1.5 yo twin girls. To me the infant stage was easier than the mobile/walking stage. They are all 3 daredevils too! They climb everything and anything. Then I went and got a dog - I'm completely crazy!!!!! But there are these very special moments that make it so worthwhile. I do love my munchkins very much!
- —claud0423
so I hear...
- I have 1 year old b/b fraternal twins. I have been told so many times by twin moms that their twins were easier than their singleton's because they entertain each other... that being so, I'm still waiting for the 'easier' part... I sometimes feel resentful to judgement from mothers of how 'easy' I have it (of course, they haven't had twins). Although it has gotten easier as they get older, new issues arise that are just as challenging. I do, however, stop, take a breath and look at how beautiful and magnificent they are and how grateful I am that they are here with me.
- —pldell
It's not easy
- It's really not easy to raise twins, especially when you have another boy, only 2 years older. Life's hard! Neverthless it's absolutely rewarding to see their smiles and watch them sleep...
- —Guest Liliana Almeida
Not really...
- I think that it is funny to read these responses and crazy that so many people think it gets easier! Mine are boy/girl twins that are finally 3 1/2. It is not any easier now, the challenges just change. Yes they are potty trained and sleep fine, but they get bored fast, fight all the time, try to run away as soon as I turn my back, and throw fits in public when I don't have access to Daddy or the time out chair! My walls have been written on with every kind of marker, lipstick, and nail polish. Do I love it? Yes, every minute. But now I am pregnant again, hoping it's a singleton, and not all that excited about raising all three. After this, we are done!
- —Guest Amy
easier at 14 months
- my b/g twins got easier at 14 months when they slept 12 hours each night and became much more independent
- —Guest nora
Still Waiting for it to get easier!
- I found myself laughing out loud at all of the responses. It makes me feel not so crazy or alone! My b/g twins are 2 years and 4 months. I used to think the infant stage was the hardest with all of the feedings, napping, baths, etc. but nothing compares to the challenges you face when they are entirely mobile and in to absolutely everything remotely in their reach. They are always in fierce competition with each other too. I can relate to what one other mom said about having one baby that requires extra attention. I remember feeling guilty about that because in the beginning my son required much more attention than my daughter. I remember feeling very guilty for not being able to give her the same amount of my attention. All I have to say is that it changes- they switch off! Separating them sometimes also helps a lot so that you can have quality one on one time with each of them. I am sad for how fast it has gone by, but I must admit that I am also looking forward to easier time
- —Guest Summer
Really?
- My b/g twins are 2 years and 3 months, is it easier? Maybe, in some ways. I'm not sure it truly gets easier, I think the challenges are different.
- —hbrookmyer
Soon..... I hope!
- The first three months with my identical twins were the hardest, very little sleep and bottles/changing/diapers every 3 hours EVERY day! After 3 months things really settled down and were great until they reached a year old, now it's harder to find things to entertain them, they are very independant but still can't be trusted on their own, and want to climb up everything and get into everything! We also have a son that's 18months older than them, he is a BIG help keeping them entertained!!
- —Guest Lisa M
(laughing)
- Mine are five...identical girls. New day...new issue. I had four boys first, each a single birth, and I have had NEVER had the issues as with the twins. Love them to death...wouldn't change a thing.
- —wenren
it's easy when you are asleep
- enjoy your sleep however short it may be! and i would like to say "stop and smell the roses" but us moms of multiples know that there is no stopping.... so ! grab some coffee and smell the roses. life is short. enjoy. i was a believer in this before i had my boys. and now they are 5 months old and teething, and i find myself sad that we are already at that phase ! i also make my husband keep them one night a wk. if we can , so that i can go out and have a martini ! ;-) this helps. helps to remember who you are , in the midst of slingin bottles and diapers and drool. cheers. and yes we are all heroes.
- —Guest b.
Much easier as they get older!
- I have a 5 year old and twin girls who are now 3 1/2 years old. I don't remember much of their 1st two years because of endless sleepless nights and sickness. When they reached their 2 1/2 year mark, it became a bit easier as they slept longer during the nights. They are now fully potty trainned and much more independant. So yes! It does get easier because I get some sleep so I'm not such a grump.
- —Guest Mary-Ann
