One of the first pieces of advice that I always give to expectant parents of multiples is "Find a club in your area!" With other pressing concerns, such as medical complications and financial constraints, many parents probably wonder why this should be such a priority. However, I feel it is invaluable to get connected with other people who have experienced the same challenges, anxieties and stresses. Time-tested parents of multiples have answers to the questions and solutions to the problems that expectant parents are worrying about.
What will a club do for me?
There are numerous benefits to joining a club for parents of multiples. Some are immediately obvious: reassurance and advice from other parents, contact information for medical professionals in the area, answers to questions and concerns, access to good deals on gently used baby equipment, etc. Others are less tangible, but nonetheless meaningful: lifelong friendships for you and your multiples, a social outlet, parenting support, and networking opportunities.
Some of the activities and benefits offered by multiples clubs are:
- A club library, offering books, magazines, videos and other publications about multiples.
- Buddy system, pairing expectant moms with experienced parents.
- Fun social gatherings for moms and/or couples.
- Yard sales, with opportunity to buy and/or sell clothing and equipment.
- Service projects that benefit the community.
- Participation in conventions on a regional, state or national level.
- Playgroups for children of all ages.
- Access to experts, professionals and other guest speakers at meetings.
How do I find a club?
For Americans, the first place to start is with the National Organization of Mothers of Twins Clubs. This network connects more than 475 local clubs across the United States, representing more than 20,000 member families with twins, triplets and quadruplets. It includes clubs designated Mothers of Twins Club (MOTC), Mothers of Multiples Club (MOMC), or Parents of Multiples Club (POMC).
Their website offers several options for locating a club in your local area. Browse the collection of club websites found here: Member Club Links. Most listings detail exactly which regions and neighborhoods they serve; there may be more than one organization in your area, so you can determine which one is most convenient to where you live and work.
If you still can't find anything in your area, don't give up. Not all clubs are associated with the NOMOTC; many more are independent. Stop by our directory of local clubs; new links are constantly being added. Your obstetrician or hospital may have contact information, or you may have to do some searching through the phone book or online. You can also try posting in our message forum for local information.
What if I'm not in the United States?
Multiples clubs exist all over the world. Our Finding Support page contains links to some of them, in countries such as the United Kingdom, Australia, Canada, Ireland, South Africa and Finland.
Stop by our message board and let us know your experience with a club for parents of multiples.