Forum Friday: Pregnant After Twins
Friday July 3, 2009
kmemum2plus1 writes: "I have just- turned- 3 year old fraternal B/G twins and have gotten bitten by the baby bug bad! I really want to try for a third baby but my husband won't budge so far... I can't get enough of my twins and am so sad that just as I am getting the hang of it, they baby stuff is over. Although I have literally been out of my mind crazy stressed some times, I still want another child... Hubby worrries about fiances, frozen embryo transfer (possibility for twins again), college funds, sleepless nights...I just crave that one on one with a baby I did not get as a working mom of twins...any advice to maybe persuade hubby?!!!"
I think most mothers of multiples can relate to these sentiments on some level. From wondering what it would be like to have one baby at a time, to craving the chance to do it over again, the desire for another baby after multiples varies from a passing fancy to an overwhelming urge. For families whose multiples are the product of a difficult battle with infertility, problematic pregnancy, or survivors of prematurity, the decision to expand can be complicated.
Stop by the message forum and share your thoughts on this topic. Did you crave another baby after having twins or multiples? Did you follow through and have another child? What is it like to have "just one" after having twins? What advice would you offer to this mother? Join the discussion.
I think most mothers of multiples can relate to these sentiments on some level. From wondering what it would be like to have one baby at a time, to craving the chance to do it over again, the desire for another baby after multiples varies from a passing fancy to an overwhelming urge. For families whose multiples are the product of a difficult battle with infertility, problematic pregnancy, or survivors of prematurity, the decision to expand can be complicated.
Stop by the message forum and share your thoughts on this topic. Did you crave another baby after having twins or multiples? Did you follow through and have another child? What is it like to have "just one" after having twins? What advice would you offer to this mother? Join the discussion.
I am a mother of a 12 year old, an almost 14 year old and soon to be mommy to twin girls (sept) but I am already thinking about “the next time.” Crazy I’m sure, but I know that feeling of wanting another baby SO MUCH! However, I would highly advise sitting down with your husband and coming up with a detailed list of both of your expectations, finances, etc. Then see if there is room to cut expenses, spend less, prioritize what you both want for your family, etc. Perhaps with some detail work you can show your husband that it is possible to afford another child, especially if you both agree that your family is your priority and that children are a blessing and not a burden. Before we got pregnant (this is a second marriage for us both and his first children) my husband and I sat down and talked about what we both wanted for our family, what we would be willing to give up for that to happen and we started planning our budget, etc. THen we prayed together and gave the rest of the details over to God. It surely helps to have both your husband and God in the same corner! Rarely do even the best laid plans work out without a hitch, but if you can give your husband detailed reasons why you want another child and what you are willing to give up or do to achieve that goal then hopefully he will listen and you will both be satisfied with the decision.
I have been a nurse for 13 years and I can surely tell you that when people are faced with the end of their life, they do not say that they wished they had driven a better car or put more hours in at work. They wish they had more children or some at all, or they wish they had spent more time with their children or spouse, that they had been better to someone, been a better role model, a better person. Think about what you don’t want to regret when you die and have your husband do the same. It might just give him the answer you are looking for! Praying also helps, ALOT!!!