From the message board, "So I'm out & about with the boys all the time. Of course everything takes longer because it seems everyone stops and wants to see them. The question of "Are they twins?" is really starting to get to me. They are only 4 months old, both in the infant carriers, within ounces of each other, what do people think they are!!! My husband says next time I should tell someone that "No, they are three month apart." and see if they even get it that that's not possible. I know the general public is fascinated with multiples because it's not an everyday thing, but come on people. Anyone else have any suggestions?"
Do the endless questions drive you crazy? Or do you relish the attention that having twins brings? Stop by the message forum and add your voice to the discussion. Or leave a comment to share your thoughts.
Do the endless questions drive you crazy? Or do you relish the attention that having twins brings? Stop by the message forum and add your voice to the discussion. Or leave a comment to share your thoughts.
I agree it is a pain, my boys are 3 & we still get that question. My husband one time told a waitress that, “No, they are triplets & we left the other at home.” She just kind of looked at us confussed, then my husband told her he was joking, but I agree you can’t do anything. I just usually say well we have to go, after I speak to them for a minute or 2, & then start to move on. Sorry, it never really ends, maybe as they get older??? but not anytime soon. I just keep an eye on my twins & smile, & then try to move on.
I know what you mean. I usually tell them no we got them as a bogo free deal on black Friday.. lol.. I usually have warn family members as we head out to prepare for the freak show, because at least 5 people will stop us wherever we go.. lol.. I don’t think they understand it already takes us extra time to get OUT of the house and back IN.. we don’t have ALL the time in the world to be dilly dallying in public..
And this is the less invasive question.. there are tons of twin questions.. it’s crazy.. lol..
Calm down and enjoy it. As a mother of 4 year old twin girls, I thank God every day for blessing me with them. Smile and say “yes” I found that it opens doors to some really nice conversations. The question will come less and less as they get older and you will miss this special time. Time will fly by and you will wonder where it went and how they got so big.
LOL I usually don’t mind this question although there are plenty other personal questions strangers will ask that are a pain. Consider yourselves rock stars and enjoy the interest that others have in your kids
It was fun at first and I like being social with new people but it is starting to get to my husband. He always asks if I experience it EVERY time I go out…which I do. I try to enjoy it but when trying to get through the supermarket I really have to hold my tongue so I’m not rude!
I know what you mean. My fraternal boys are 4 months old. I have to lay them on blankets in the cart in Walmart. It takes 2 hours for a 20 minute trip because EVERYONE asks that questions. Then comes the “how do you tell them apart?” question. I look at them! that’s how! They barely look alike at all. I am also tired of being asked what aisle I got them on! Although that question was cute at first.
Ohhh i know what you mean. I had my boys out in there matching carseats in a tandem stroller and they were dressed very similiar… “Are they twins?” I kinda looked at her like are you serious? but she was so of course I say Yep, they’re twins…but it’s those dumb, lets make conversation questions that just set me off!! Why can’t they say “how old are they?” or something that doesn’t make them look like complete idiots? LOL
but yeah i do agree they are a blessing and we should all just consider ourselves rockstars
I have boy girl twins and everytime we went out in public when they were babies one in pink and one in blue people would stop and ask are they twins I would say and they would ask if they were identical! COME ON! They are not even the same sex. I finally got tired of it and told one lady yes but we really wanted a girl so we are making one of them a girl if he likes it or not. She got a confused look on her face and walked off mumbling. Mine are 4 and I still get asked if they are twins at least twice everytime we go out. Hang in there I keep hearing it will get better.
OMG! I know exactly how you feel! My twin boys are 15 mths old and the questions still haven’t stopped. I actually had a sales lady follow me around the store asking 20 questions, the boys were not happy to be there in the first place and I just wanted to get in and out, and I had this lady following me around, it was so frustating! I know people are just curious, but please just 1 question and be on your way already!
I know exactly how you feel. Our boys are 3 now and we still get stopped all the time. We live in a small town and it’s like they are little celebrities when we are out and about. They are not identical, but do look very similar and to top it off they both have beautiful red hair, which in itself is a attention grabber. It is hard to get stopped all the time especially when you are in a hurry…but it also shows you how truly blessed you are. Also it makes me feel so proud to have such handsome boys that bring a smile to everyones face, young and old.
The best thing we did was invest in 2 umbrella strollers and found we were in and out of the stores quicker. It’s when they’re in the double stroller that they notice!
I love getting twin comments! It does make my trip longer and I may not get everything done but it still amazes me that I have my twins and I love showing them off. I get a huge kick out of it. They’re only 1 and so I may get tired of it later, but for now, I really enjoy taking them out!
I have triplet 8 week old boys and am getting tired of hearing “I can’t imagine having triplets especially boys” Well I have to bite my tongue often from telling them they dont have to because this is my experiance only and the triplets were sent to me. Many times I prefer to just stay home and enjoy my boys and avoid the stares and looks that people give me when I go out. Maybe as they get older things will get better but for now I try to avoid the public spotlight and ignore peoples questions by pretending to be busy with the boys:)
Mother of 3 yr old twin boys , one blonde one brunette. Allthe time if they are twins and they point out that I have one blonde one brunnette. I just act suprised, But I get the Are they identical and how do I tell them apart? Are people realy this dumb????haha Ive notice if I dress them alike I dont get is as often as when they are dressed differently. Im guessing people just assume. whne they were smaller I just kept them covered up in carriers to get through the store. There just twins not a two headed monster but from some of the looks I get youd think it.
The question is annoying, esp if they are clearly not identical and people ask if they are identical, but most people are well meaning (even those that say “thank God it’s not me). I have had moms of twins ask me that and then give me some advice and encouragement so have an open mind. At 4 months it is hard to take comments, esp with the sleep deprivation, but one day it may be you giving a mom of twins (or one newborn) some advice or comments.
I hear that all the time especially since one of my twin girls is 1 1/2 lb. smaller. One lady even asked if I was sure they were twins. I was embarassed for her. Note not all twins are the same size.
The STUPID questions have only just begun. We have 3 yr old identical twin girls. We get the standard are they twins. Plus how can you tell them apart? Are they identical? My all time favorite STUPID question is “Are they sisters?”. I literally started to laugh!!! Now the girls answer all the STUPID questions. Saddest part is when we go anywhere it’s like they are part of an exhibit at a zoo…even @ the zoo!!!